Yes, models feel ugly. That’s what Cameron Russell says in her TED Talk. And that talk helped me put quite a few things into perspective.
Just the other week, as I was getting out of the shower, I caught my reflection in the mirror.
Once I had a glimpse, I didn’t stop there. I stood there and couldn’t help but “inspect” my body. Thoughts like “I wish I could do something about my abs… and my legs… If only I could lose just one more pound… I wish I had a butt like (insert name here…)” ran through my mind.
Fortunately, I had a busy day ahead so I didn’t stand there too long with my thoughts. I managed to mute my “inner ugly voice” and carry on with my day.
But that voice didn’t quite go away — it was still in the background all day. At the end of the day though, perhaps some kind of divine intervention, I stumbled upon Cameron’s TED Talk. And boy, am I glad I did.
“Looks aren’t everything. Believe me, I’m a model,” starts Cameron. I was intrigued and kept watching. When she was finished, I felt relief.
I realise that this insecurity and criticism I have about my image is something almost all of us deal with. And yes, that also includes supermodels, who to us on the outside world, seem perfect and flawless. Surely they have nothing to be unhappy about, right?
In her talk, Cameron shares that we all feed discouraged when it comes to our body image, feeling “not good enough”. We all feel a little ugly sometimes, if not all the time.
Sometimes I feel that it’s difficult to be a modern woman in this day and age, juggling motherhood, careers and social life, without being concerned or insecure about the image you are projecting. Most magazine covers don’t help with that.
We don’t have to be in the fashion industry to care.
“There’s very little that we can do to transform how we look, and how we look, though it is superficial and immutable, has a huge impact on our lives,” Cameron says 2-minutes into the video.
I couldn’t agree more.
We can dig deep into our fears and objections, but at the end of the day, it’s the insecurity that is the root of the problem. And it’s fascinating most of us feel this way.
Sometimes the way we look makes us feel insecure, sometimes it’s the thing we do or don’t do. It is difficult to escape insecurity.
Watching Cameron speak helped me understand that it is not by denying that I will overcome my insecurities. It is by accepting it that I will.
I’m telling you, it’s not easy to love yourself with all your greatness and your darkness but you have to start at some point. Self-love can be a long journey, so now is always the right time to start.
“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” Wayne Dyer
So after watching Cameron’s video and having several a-ha’s, I decided to do away with my “inner ugly voice” and came up with a list of promises to myself:
- Honor my body. After all it delivered two healthy boys and I’m still here 🙂
- Have happy thoughts. For everything I don’t like about myself, I will also find something I like. It seems silly but it helps to train my brain to look on the positive side.
- Change the viewpoint. I don’t want to look perfect in a heavily photoshopped era. What’s more important is to be healthy and have tons of energy to be able to play with my kids, enjoy my relationship with my husband and be able to perform my best at work.
- Get out of the center. If I feel I’m too self-centered, I shift my focus and start looking around. How can I help others? How can I see beauty for everything that surrounds me? The objective is to gain perspective.
- Love myself. I can not be a better person or a more caring one if I don’t love myself first. This has to be my priority this my new love motto for everything I do, say and think.
Hope this mini list of promises to myself can also help you. 🙂
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P.S. Also check out Do You Think This Is A Sexy Model?