Do you get the holiday blues when the jolly season comes around?
Do you feel anxious, sad, down or even depressed once we start the month of December and everyone gets all gooey over the holiday season?
If you’re not a fan of the holiday season, don’t worry – you’re not the only one.
I have to confess that I love holidays. Christmas especially is my favourite. But I do know that it can be a very challenging time for some. I know quite a few people who get annoyed, sad and even irritated around Christmas time.
Several factors contribute to the “holiday blues” according to Mental Health America. These include: stress, fatigue, unrealistic expectations, over-commercialization, financial constraints and an inability to be with one’s friends and family. (Read more here.)
So if the holiday season is not your cup of tea, here’s your survivors guide for the holiday season:
- Say “No”: You worked very hard the whole year to earn the right to decide where and with whom spend your holidays with. Listen to yourself and don’t be afraid to say no. It’s never fun being somewhere with someone when you don’t want to.
- Make a date with yourself: It gets pretty busy this time of the year. Just stepping out of your door can seem chaotic. Try to find a moment to be alone and enjoy that. Read a book, do some cooking, enjoy a movie or a glass of wine. No matter what you do, look for a moment to spend some quality time with yourself in peace and happiness.
- Enjoy nature: Nothing beats the blues than like being outdoors and breathing some fresh air. Try to go for a walk, a run, enjoy a nice sunset or a stroll around a garden. Put on headphones if you want to tune out the world. Get outside and do what you love and it will melt away stress and relax your mind.
- Give back: Instead of getting stressed about what to buy as presents, why not donate some of your time to a good cause? Helping others gives you another perspective on your issues and makes it easier to put your problems aside when you can see how you’re helping others in a time of need.
- Appreciate: We take so many things for granted, so why don’t we use this moment to celebrate, honor and appreciate everything and everyone who is around us? If you pay attention you will find that you are surrounded by so many blessings. The difference lies in whether you want to see it or not.
- Relax: At the end of the day, Christmas is just another day. It will pass. So relax, don’t take everything so seriously (even your blues).
- Enjoy: If life gives you lemons… 😉 If you can’t change the situation you are in right now, learn to enjoy it instead. Put some fun and laughter into it and try to see it from another point of view.
Now, let me tell you why I really like Christmas. It is not about the decorations or the catchy carols.
It’s because I celebrate the fact that I was lucky to have lived another year and to have enjoyed that year with my family and friends. For me, it is a moment to celebrate the year that just ended; a time to appreciate the learnings; to remember the laughs and to wish the year ahead well.
That really works for me. So if you’re ever feeling low for whatever reason during the holidays, just find a meaning to it that empowers you instead of making you feel bad. We can’t change that fact that the holiday season exists, but we definitely can change the way we think about it.
Are you a fan of the holidays or does it get you down? Share your thoughts and also tell us why. We’d love to hear them.